Yesterday, the Howler spent a lot of time telling us "I'm not lying." It was over stupid things, really, like whether or not she had homework. She knows the deal with homework and why we'll be hardasses about it. Still, gotta love how stubborn she is.
Later, while doing the "not homework" and her AWANAS verses, she tells her father, "Daddy, you need to understand! I had a really bad day today!"
When asked why she had a really bad day, she declined to answer, "I don't wanna talk about it." As if! You've had a bad enough day to try to brow beat me into submission, well, then, you're gonna talk about it!
First, we were told it was because she missed recess. For no good reason at all!
Then, we were told it was because, while minding her own business, she spit in the grass and someone ran and told the teacher. For no good reason at all! My Sweetie asks me to email her teacher RIGHT NOW to get a real answer. (Of course, we were told, by the Howler, "I'm not lying.")
Finally, we were told the truth. My daughter spit at one of her classmates. And, terrible mother that I am, I wanted to laugh. My Sweetie, God love him, stayed calm and managed to reprimand her without snapping out.
He then decided to inform me that this spitting thing is pretty nasty (because I didn't know?) and that it has nothing to do with her being a girl, it just pretty nasty.
I don't think he realizes that I can tell the difference--mostly because while dealing with the issue, he never made reference to "my daughter," "lady," or "little girl." And the volume level and tone of his voice. And his body language. Apparently, he has been listening to me, and the message I've been sending is getting through--at least to him. With the Howler? It remains to be seen.